Relationship Politics: Body Language Of The McCain Marriage
John McCain claims not to have known of his wife’s drug addiction, even at a time when she was supporting her habit by stealing drugs from a charity organization. If that’s true–if he actually didn’t know about his wife’s addiction–he demonstrates a lack of awareness that is panoramic. How do you fail to notice that your partner is stoned for months at a time? In John McCain’s case, there’s a simple answer and a more complex one. The simple answer is that he is a fellow-addict, known for his deep affection for the gambling table, as well as ties to the gambling industry. His addiction is the adrenalin-charged game of craps, a passion that is rumored to have cost him money and rifts in his marriage (Cindy being the one with the deep pockets who always had to bail him out.) When two addicts are married, they make an unconscious contract between them: If you agree not to confront me on my addiction, I’ll agree not to confront you on yours.
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There’s a deeper answer, though, to the question of how partners gradually become oblivious to the painfully obvious. It speaks to something every conscious couple needs to know. A few years ago a car passed us with a bumper sticker that had an intriguing question written on it, “What are you pretending not to know?” It’s a question that all of us should ask of ourselves on a regular basis. It takes a heroic act of unconsciousness not to notice so profound a thing as drug addiction in one’s partner.
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A relationship thrives only when people express abundant appreciation for each other.
The McCains earned the chilly distance in their relationship by a long history of ignoring these three simple rules of relationship. We as Americans must not ignore the impact of these rules on how we interact with our politicians. We think it’s time to demand that our politicians observe the rules of healthy relationships.For example, wouldn’t it be great to hear politicians take responsibility, rather than blame their opponents, for problems? We’d love to hear John McCain say to us all, “My friends, I take responsibility for my part in the economic mess we’re in. After all, I was one of the Keating Five! I helped Charles Keating pull off one of the biggest financial scams of all time. That scam cost the U.S. taxpayers billions, a heck of a lot more than all those airplanes I crashed. I urge my fellow Republicans to re-direct all the energy they spending in blaming Democrats to taking full responsibility for fixing this mess. I pledge to stop blaming and start focusing on positive solutions.”
#27
Can you give us your address so we can drop a harmless little bomb down your stovepipe? It’s my right to free speech to be able to bomb people I disagree with…is that your point?
#14 Damn Jag, you owe me a new keyboard! I just blew coffee all over it.
Can we all get together and pat Brenda on the back? Of even the front maybe…
Opiate users can appear completely normal. In fact, if they have access to clean, pure drugs like Cindy did, about the only way you can identify them is by testing their pee. So lay off the “how could he not tell she was stoned”?
Yea==but when they don’t have access to pure drugs and go into withdrawal, I guess McCain just thought it was that time of the month three times a week.
Did Stephanie get taken back to the asylum?
Opiates tend to constrict the pupils and become unresponsive to changes to brightness, someone like her with light colored eyes it’s even more obvious, also they tend to make you itch, have you ever seen a heroin addict after they shoot up, they have problems seeing in the dark and scratch allot.
Have you no shame! What a disgusting article and for what purpose? The politics of personal destruction now knows no bounds. Anymore we are not about the free exchange of opinion and ideas. We are acting like the most primeval of creatures, blindly attacking what does not smell like a fellow heard member. I am moving on to another blog with higher aims, better facts and respect for basic human dignity. The rest of you can stay,and smell each others ass.
Stephanie said-
I get it, I didn’t right away.
Lou Reed, right?
Well good cause your ass is full of dingleberries==and not the good kind.
#3 LibertyLover — if you don’t like government, why don’t you move to somewhere like the Congo. Not much gov’t there.
Wow, tough crowd today.
Leave it to Uncle Dave to showcase a Huffington Post article. Stellar..cough,cough..journalism on par with Mother Jones magazine.
#43, HanahMontanaGirl,
Hey !!! Mother Jones, love it. Great mag.
Why can’t the right wing nuts ever get someone to publish a magazine that brilliant?
Jag,
With all respect to Ed, he is special after all, I thought you would have have posted something more like this.
#45,
I forgot to mention that I do love Ed. Why can’t the right wing nuts be that funny?
#33 – Special Ed – Damn Jag, you owe me a new keyboard! I just blew coffee all over it.
Time to wash it… 😉
Can we all get together and pat Brenda on the back? Of even the front maybe…
Hmmm… I’ll pass.
#45 – Mr. Fusion
The original. 🙂
“For example, wouldn’t it be great to hear politicians take responsibility, rather than blame their opponents, for problems? We’d love to hear John McCain say to us all, “My friends, I take responsibility for my part in the economic mess we’re in. After all, I was one of the Keating Five! I helped Charles Keating pull off one of the biggest financial scams of all time. That scam cost the U.S. taxpayers billions, a heck of a lot more than all those airplanes I crashed. I urge my fellow Republicans to re-direct all the energy they spending in blaming Democrats to taking full responsibility for fixing this mess. I pledge to stop blaming and start focusing on positive solutions.”
That is really thick, Eid–er, Uncle Dave. Obama was Fanny Mae’s #2 highest with regard to campaign donations. The Democrats have been in control of the finance committee. They blocked all attempts to reign this in. McCain tried but you can’t even give him that small bit of credit. Pull off your blinders sometime and at least admit to something on your side of the aisle.
#49 – Semen
John McCain’s top contributors:
1 Citigroup Inc (Subprime Scandal) (Class 3 asset questions) $145,050
2 Blank Rome LLP – (attorneys) $141,400
3 Greenberg Traurig – (1750 lawyers) $129,987
4 Merrill Lynch (Subprime Scandal) (Class 3 asset questions) $119,675
5 Goldman Sachs (Subprime Scandal) (Class 3 asset questions)
$111,050
6 IDT Corp – (telecommunications) $80,150
7 Pinnacle West Capital $77,850
8 Bank of New York Mellon (Subprime Scandal) $74,000
9 JP Morgan Chase & Co (Subprime Scandal) (Class 3 asset
questions) $72,100
10 Irvine Co Apartment Community $68,400
11 Broadcasting Media Partners $67,800
12 MGM Mirage $66,100
13 Credit Suisse Group $63,350
14 Lehman Brothers (Subprime Scandal) $61,450
15 Bridgewater Assoc $58,300
16 Cisco Systems $56,850
17 Triwest Healthcare Alliance $54,250
18 FedEx Corp $52,100
18 Wachovia Corp (Subprime Scandal) $52,100
20 Morgan Stanley – (Subprime Scandal) (Class 3 asset questions) $51,950
#47 OK Jager, if I wake up screaming tonight, it will be your fault.
The winner:
Number of jet airplanes successfully crashed: 3.
Distance from the bottom of his college class: 4.
Number of SAMs successfully intercepted: 1.
Number of faithful, disfigured wives abandoned: 1.
Number of dollars lost in gambling: priceless.
Who is this John McCain? What do we really know about him?
#41, Why? In a couple of years, this one might end up just as badly.
Vote Third Party!
#5 Special Ed. Don’t do it!
If the baby powder contains talc, it is carcinogenic. OK externally, but don’t let it in your lungs or your bloodstream.
Sorry not to respond sooner to you Paddy, I have a life outside of trolling this website.
Like I said, it isn’t okay that people died because of their protesting. But I see that people who kill others while high or while drunk get second chances all the time. So somehow that makes it more socially acceptable? I just really don’t understand how people can get so worked up about Ayers still. Ayers clearly is doing other stuff in his life, not “terrorism”, yet he has no opportunity to be redeemed in some people’s eyes. And for those of you who claim that you didn’t really do anything real bad as a young adult, good for you. I didn’t either. But I do recall a kid in high school who was beating another kid up and unfortunately the victim fell the wrong way on the ground and busted his carotid artery so he bled to death internally. The kid paid his dues according to our legal system and is living his life everyday with knowing he killed someone. That is what Ayers is doing. Life goes on and you can’t change your past, only your future.
You want to talk about dropping a bomb on my parents??? You dare me to answer??? Well let’s see dumbass, one was a deadbeat and one is dead. Good luck with that.
#55 Still can’t answer a simple question.
Back to the asylum for you.
#55–Stepanie==your example proves nothing. A school yard fight is foolish, folks are young and their brains haven’t even formed, the direct cause of death was accidental, the perp is sorry he did it.
None of those apply to Ayers who STILL claims he wish he had done more. More of what is ambiguous, but no reason not to assume the worst.
REALLY–your moral equivalency is abhorrent.
Paddy, all you can do is provoke like a little splinter. Ugh, get a life.
Bobbo, where are you getting your information from that he wishes he had done more? Is that from a legitimate source? I hear his defense that what he says is taken out of context. I also hear that he is sorry. I don’t claim to be an expert on Ayers or brain formation but there were a lot of people doing drugs and it was a very tense time in the nation because of the war. Makes for a bad combination. They protested and choose some wrong avenues to do so. I wasn’t around in the 60’s but I can figure out that 40 years later, some of this is just really irrelevant and shouldn’t be the basis for picking our next presidential candidate.
Obama may have had some ties with him due to the education committee they were on, hell he may even be his friend. But normal people have friends that they may not always be aligned with ideologically speaking. I am tired of hearing people say that Obama is a terrorist by association because of Ayers. It is plain ridiculous. Does it make me a murderer because I am a friend of someone who committed manslaughter or even condone that? No.
My point with my original post is that people sit back and complain about this and that but never take action. Protesting is great and necessary. Taking it too far by killing people isn’t acceptable. But I do say to give the guy a break for his decades old mistake and to not base an election in this very serious time off of Ayers.
“decades old mistake”, how you can still call intentionaly killing people a mistake.
The (misguided) purpose of drunk driving, which you compared this to, is to get home. The purpose of placing a bomb on a police car is to kill police officers. Can you see the difference?
video of Ayers saying he wish he had done more:
http://gatewaypundit.blogspot.com/2008/10/terrorists-ayers-dorhn-admit-they-wish.html
#58–stephanie==bravo, you are open to “facts.” Unfortunately, I don’t have many.
You ask: Bobbo, where are you getting your information from that he wishes he had done more? /// I have heard him on audio tape saying exactly that. I think the bit I heard was about 4-5 years ago.
Is that from a legitimate source? /// It was a 20 second clip various times and places on TV. Not real credible. Need atleast 5 minutes with 10 follow up questions–something TV never supplies.
I hear his defense that what he says is taken out of context. /// I heard that once too. The generic to everything defense. Very not credible standing alone.
I also hear that he is sorry. /// I’ve never heard that.
My position: the crime was so horrible he can never atone for it. The fact that for years he was proud of it condemns him regardless of what he does or doesn’t say recently, now, or in the future.
I don’t follow this or any other guilt by association issue. I could create a scenario where Obama would deserve a negative review over this association, but on balance, not one that would disqualify Obama.
What do you think? Can any crime be forgiven over time? Why should this one?