How feminism destroyed real men
Back in the Nineties, emboldened by the successes of feminism, women sought to slay the dragon of patriarchy by turning men into ridiculous cissies who would cry with them through chick-flicks and then cook up a decent lasagne.
Suddenly, women wanted to drive home their newfound equality by moulding men to be more like them.
This velvet revolution was reflected in a series of broader cultural changes. After decades of uncompromising movie heroes like Marlon Brando and Clint Eastwood, we were asked to fall for stuttering, floppy-haired fops like Hugh Grant; touchy-feely and hopelessly embarrassed around women.
No doubt at the time, millions of misguided single women thought that having a man who could feel their pain and emote for Britain was a Good Thing.
Now, over a decade later, women are waking up to the fact that these men are drippy, sexless bores. The feminisation of men hasn’t produced the well-rounded uber-males women were hoping for.
Instead, women are now lumped with flabby invertebrates, little more than doormats, whom they secretly despise but are too proud to admit it.
did anyone with an XY not see this coming?
who can I sue for my spineless nature?
What utter nonsense. Only when a man is confident in his sexuality does he lean towards metrosexuality. The cleaner, nicer smelling, sexually rambunctious guy that a joy to find lurking behind the football watching pub crawler where we find them.
Gee, another typically mindless American sound bite with no real informational value.
Have you read the article? The man is a total asshole. His wife threw him out for cheating. When he came back he made passionate love to her so she wouldn’t “have him over a barrel” for his unfaithfulness. He asked her “who’s the boss” and pressed her till she admitted that he was. It’s possible to be a real man without being a controlling jerk…
Being secure with one’s sexuality does not naturally cause a man to gravitate towards metrosexuality.
While that security with one’s own sexuality and being aware of others is a good thing, that doesn’t mean that a guy with stereotypically “male” interests is going to abandon his beer-swilling football-watching ways to take interest in fashion and interior design. There’s no problem if those things are genuinely what a guy likes either, but make no mistake: metrosexuality is just a trend.
There is place for a man to be sensitive and understanding, but there is also equal place for him to be confident and self-assured. These are not conflicting ideals; they are simply rare in our culture.
We are all influenced by our culture, but let’s not decry, “Feminism made me do it!” That’s a self-fulfilling assertion if I’ve ever heard one.
Should have kept them in kitchen.
Tabloid, he’s flogging a book, “just one man’s opinion”: I wouldn’t get excited. He could even be making things up to improve sales: “there’s no such thing as bad publicity”.
IF there has been a change in men as he claims, I’d be inclined to look for environmental rather than sociological causes. For example, the estrogen-mimicking chemicals in plastics.
doesn’t this relate to the previous post about feminism in education, and its effect on rising males?
sorry, but I just don’t know how to dig up old posts
The author may be an idiot, but unfortunately he is right about this. Men are wimps. It has as much to do with PC as with feminism, and the end result is supposedly straight men who are more obsessed with themselves and looking pretty than many women. The fortune 500 corporation I work for is full of them.
Most of them have gotten out of college in the past 5 years or less, so we could nip this in the bud by taking out a few major universities. I don’t think there are very many metros who don’t have at least some college education. So they should be easy to find.
Useless article but a fun read. Any change in men is just due to better communications world wide. Thanks to movies and books and on-line polls and such we can see that we don’t have to pretend to be the toughest guy in the room to be a real man. The box has been opened and we know too much. We couldn’t go back to being macho, women hating idiots.
Before: (banging drum & chanting mnemonic) steal the HORSES! rape the WOMEN! steal the HORSES! rape the WOMEN!
Now: Oh dear, I’ve offended you haven’t I, oh gosh I’m sorry..
I’m with Tinywok on this. Who do we sue for making us into spineless wimps, and has anyone seen my handbag?
As one of the last remaining real men in the western world, I long ago discovered the secret: Marry an Asian woman!
1. More feminine. Far prettier. Not fat. Not dumpy. No cellulite.
2. More mentally stable. Green tea, yes, Prozac, no. I Ching, yes, pop-psychology, no.
3. Far more intelligent. They are getting degrees in math and physics, not sociology and whining.
4. Contrary to the racist drivvel of white women, Asian women are not subserviant at all. Two presidents of Philippines, women. Vice President of Taiwan, woman. And those are young democracies, what has America got to show for it in 230 year, Hillary? Ha. Now, many leading doctors, surgeons, and engineers are…Asian women, while American women are soaking up government jobs in fluffy, brain-dead positions (teachers, especially) that are little more than middle class femininist WELFARE.
5. Asian women (ok, Yoko excluded) generally like masculine men.
6. Asian women are far better in bed, it is part of their culture, while WHINING has become all that round-eye women do.
When given a choice, men will always chose Asian women. Western women are not wanted by anyone. They are obsolete. (And fat).
Hehe… love the stereotypes, Sunset. “Sociology and whining” made me laugh – because it’s true. *sigh*
No mention of the rise of the Metrosexual male?
If you are one of those asking who to sue for making you a whip, the anser is yourself. You are who you are by your own free will. I never worried about how any women saw me, be it manly or “in touch with my femian side” (maybe that would explane why I never had a girlfriend, or is it that I am so dang ugly that mirrors break when I am around 😉 )
I am who I am, if you don’t like it, oh well no skin off my knose.
Yes, Dvorak I agree…you are posting the lowest pond scum (yellow journalism). As for the article, I don’t care. It is just another person, with another opinion. Some times we need to sit back and realize how full of bullshit the media is. On the other hand it can be fun to toy with people’s emotions, can’t it?
#17… take a joke…
Sunset Jones is an idiot.
Hehe… Sunset Jones has an awesome sense of humor. #20, you need to lighten up. And he’s right about Sociology classes – what a waste of a major.
Hey! I am NOT drippy!
Sunset Jones forgot one thing: The older the asian women get, the bossier they become.
I almost forgot, if you want masculine men go to a leather bear bar; just make these men talk, that way you’ll notice who’s the masculine one or one that spits yards of chiffon when talking 😉
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Wow, this guy’s a prick. First he spouts off about being true to his masculine spirit, then uses it to justify his adultery. His wife ought to find herself another “manly man”. Maybe one who doesn’t have his head up his ass.
Go to a dog park (this is Starbucks) if you live in a city or field trials (this is the C&W joint on Route 56) if you live in the country and you can find all there is to know about the battle of the sexes from just watching the dogs. All females accept an alpha male, but only when they decide and with no delay. The rest of the time they want to be left the hell alone, but are willing to hang out with other females and the canine version of Hugh Grant. Alpha females (this is your girlfriend or wife’s busybody friend) to some degree give the other females in the pack their marching orders (your girlfriend’s relationship qualifiers checklist and why she has 112 shoes she has never worn). So males in a sense, serve two mistresses.
Human and canine males on the other hand, as the header cartoon points out somewhat correctly, mostly want to fornicate, fight or get out of town (roadtrip). Sleeping is a popular option when the other three aren’t available, or after option 1 above. Obviously not every male can take the alpha slot by force, so you end up with a lot of Hugh Grants and an occasional canine or human Sean (this is the guy from high school that used your head for a toilet brush, when you slipped up and brought woodwind band instrument into the locker room) Connery.
These observations apply mostly to younger members of the pack. Older pack members eventually become content with the knowledge that opportunity for most things will present itself in time. That and knowing with perseverance you can learn to row a boat with rope.
#21 – If Sunset Jones was writing as a joke, I missed it and I would be happy to offer an apology. If he seriously wants to to take a major generalized swing at all American women (of any ethnicity) and take an uncalled for stab at their weight – then to hell with him.
So Sunset, here are two things:
A: I offer my heartfelt apology.
B: Go screw yourself.
You take the one you think you deserve. I’ll trust your judgement in this matter 🙂
This is a publication that originates in the U.K. This is really a commentary about Tony Blair. Tony Blair is Bush’s bitch. Tony goes home after each visit to the U. S. with some of the U. K. ‘s “special relationship” with America dripping from his chin.
Jeeeez, just reading this, I agree with Mr. Sunset Jones. I am lucky, I was on business in Vietnam and met, and later married, a beautiful lady who is now getting her MS in mathematics. By contrast, my American peers were all digging out from their divorces with fat, ugly, mentally ill American women. I am soooo lucky to have an Asian wife.
Meanwhile, note the shrill, need-a-Prozac screeching of certain white women here. Yikes! Yes, we know you are ANRGY. No, we don’t want to date your fat, cat-owning, dumpy, ice-cream eating, television watching, Prozac sucking, cellulite covered, bovine-looking selves!
Fred Reed, as usual, has already covered this topic with Total Insight and Final Wisdon. “Why White Men Prefer Asian Women.”
Link:
http://www.fredoneverything.net/AsianWomen.shtml
Jeeeez, just reading this, I agree with Mr. Sunset Jones. I am lucky, I was on business in Vietnam and met, and later married, a beautiful lady who is now getting her MS in mathematics. By contrast, my American peers are all digging out from their divorces with fat, ugly, mentally- ill American women who had three-digit SAT scores. Sunet Jones is right, American women they are just parasites who live on feminist welfare, be it government or corporate, they are COWS that don’t even become beef later.
I am soooo lucky to have an Asian wife. My friends are envious.
Meanwhile, note the shrill, need-a-Prozac screeching of certain white women here. Yikes! Yes, we know you are ANRGY. No, we don’t want to date your fat, cat-owning, dumpy, ice-cream eating, television watching, Prozac sucking, cellulite covered, bovine-looking selves!
Fred Reed, as usual, has already covered this topic with Total Insight and Final Wisdon. “Why White Men Prefer Asian Women.”
Link:
http://www.fredoneverything.net/AsianWomen.shtml
That’s a must-read!
Unforunately, feminism, which was originally conceived to exalt women, got hijacked by the man-hating lesbians of the National Organization for Women (50% lesbian according to a Washingtom Times article several years ago). So instead of exalting women, feminism debases men.
American women have allowed themselves to be culturally shaped and moulded by lesbian influence. Unfortunately, since lesbians lack the fundamental use for a man, lesbians are inherently incapable of emphatizing with or assigning any value to men whatsoever. So they use feminism to wage their culture war against men, and psychologically seduce mainstream American women with false promises of “empowerment”. Unfortunately, this “empowerment” comes at the cost of enrichment; now they’re equal to males, but find the males are no longer men.